Ok… next year will be that time for me.
I am in NEW JERSEY and have spoken briefly with the courts and an attorney but have not retained anyone yet.
My ultimate questions/concerns are as follows:
1: My son is old enough to decide if he does or doesn’t want to come over… even the attorney has mentioned this. BUT…if he decides to not come over, not because there is any neglect or abuse… mainly because he has no rules at his mom’s and can do what he wants, but if he does decide that then I am worried she can up the calculated support based on him being with her for more nights… yes? no?
2. At age 18, the court ordered visitation ceases… even the courts told me that. He can still continue to come over but he is not ordered any longer by the courts. Is there anything that can be done to get time with him other than put him on a guilt trip?
3. COLLEGE: He has decided to go to community college and here in NJ based on his acedemics he can go almost 100% free. So… the attorney has told me to speak to him near the end of his Sr year so we can start working on a game plan. MY THOUGHT… is that we should be doing that now because if his school costs go to almost $0 then my support obligation needs to reflect that and it needs to do that immediately when he graduates, not some time during the summer or following fall. yes? no? Why should I be paying her 100’s of $$ while he takes the summer off?!?
That’s it! Thanks in advance…
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